2 Corinthians 2:1
1 For I made up my mind unot to make another painful visit to you.
2 Corinthians 2:3
3 And I wrote as I did, so that when I came I might not suffer pain from those who should have made me rejoice, wfor I felt sure of all of you, that my joy would be the joy of you all.
1 Corinthians 4:21
21 What do you wish? vShall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness?