2 Corinthians 2:1; 2 Corinthians 2:3; 1 Corinthians 4:21

For I made up my mind unot to make another painful visit to you.

And I wrote as I did, so that when I came I might not suffer pain from those who should have made me rejoice, wfor I felt sure of all of you, that my joy would be the joy of you all.

21 What do you wish? vShall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness?